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This morning Gina and I were talking about the Question of the Day. It was about opening doors and how people felt about it. This of course led to a discussion about Manners. As a parent we always try to teach our children manners. This of course is usually followed by the ever present “Why”.  Well here is why.

 

I will list a few manners and follow it up with the benefit of using that manner so we are able to see the big picture here. I hope this helps.

 

Manner-Saying “please” and “thank you”

Benefit-When you say please and thank you it makes the person you are dealing with feel like you value their feelings and property. It puts them at ease and also causes them to want to respect your feelings and property. In essence is sets a foundation for trust.

 

Manner-Do not interrupt when people are speaking.

Benefit-When you are polite and do not interrupt when people are speaking it intimates to them that you value what they have to say. When people feel like you care about their opinions they will want to be around you more and feel like they are respected.

 

Manner-Keep your negative opinions to yourself

Benefit-When you speak positively others will feel good. When the conversation is negative people tend to feel bad. Others will naturally gravitate towards people that make them feel good. When you are negative it makes you look judgmental and makes others uneasy because they don’t want to be judged.

 

Manner-Hygiene

Benefit-Others will not be turned off by your appearance. If you have body odor or bad breath and someone smells it they naturally want to get away from it. Your hair and manner of dress sends messages to others about who you are. You will be sized up on how you dress and how you take care of yourself. You don’t have to wear the latest trend or have the most expensive grooming products. Just look and smell like you take care of yourself.

 

 

Manner-Cover your mouth and nose when you sneeze/cough

Benefit-Covering when you sneeze/cough let’s others know that you care about keeping your germs to yourself. People do not like being sick and when you spread your germs carelessly you infect others. Eventually they will not want to be around you. And that goes for picking your nose too.

 

Manner-Use your table manners

Benefit-Eating is a very subjective activity. What is perfectly fine for one person might be totally disgusting to another.  This is why we have a set of normalized table manners for our country. This insures that everyone knows what to expect while dinning with others. However these rules do change from culture to culture so when traveling be sure to educate yourself of the local customs.

 

    There are manners or rules of etiquette that govern all of our social interactions. Phone etiquette, How to introduce yourself and others, saying “yes sir, no sir, yes ma’am, and no ma’am”, holding the door for others. etc. All to help us get along with others in civilized society and in all aspects of life. You see if we use manners our children will use them. If we use manners in the workplace we will be noticed by our superiors, it’s not enough to be skilled at your job you also have to be able to work with the team. If you are in sales manners will increase your ability to not only sell your product but also get return business. Using manners with your fiends will provide for an enduring relationship. Using your manners with your Signiant other will strengthen your relationship by establishing trust and respect. Even using manners while driving can prevent accidents.  

 

   Using manners will not only make you a better person but also positively affect those around you. It just makes life more pleasant. So use your manners……….please.

 

Thank you for taking the time to read

Scotty